What do Drew Barrymore and Adam Sandler Have to do with Your First Thoughts

“50 First Dates” is one of my favorite movies.  I think it’s a great romantic comedy.  Just in case you have not seen it, I’ll give you a quick run down.  Adam Sandler’s character meets Drew Barrymore’s character and falls in love with her.  The catch is that, Barrymore’s character has a type of amnesia that prevents her from remembering the previous day.  She lives everyday of her life identical to the day before, with her father and brother protecting from the truth of her ailment.

Enter Sandler who falls in love with her and she seems to fall in love with him but doesn’t remember him from one day to the next.  In the end they marry and have children, but Sandler has made Barrymore a video that she watches every morning.  In the video Sandler reminds her that they are happily married with lovely children.  As she watches the video, you can see the joy on her face as she learns about her life and she goes to join her family.

By now I’m sure you’re wondering what this has to do with your First Thoughts.

Unbeknownst to most, we actually begin our day in very much the same way as Barrymore’s character.  When we initially wake-up we go through a process of remembering who we are, what day it is and most importantly what it all means to us. We essentially wake with amnesia.  And we gradually regain our bearings.

You may have had the experience of waking up from a very deep sleep completely confused about your location, the day, and even who you are.  Typically we wake much more gradually and as we do we sort of “step” into our reality, the same reality that is based on our beliefs.

Upon waking, you are stepping back into your self-concept or your deep seated beliefs about yourself.  They are not necessarily true.  Sandler’s character could have put any information in his video for Barrymore’s character and she would have believed it.  This is true of us as well.  Everything we tell ourselves in the morning is based on habit and past experience. 

This is why it can be so difficult to shift our experience by changing our habits.  We are actually “clicking” into them in the moments just before waking up, making those first waking moments incredibly powerful.

I have found in my own personal experience that this is the very best time to use hypnotic suggestions to actually create change in your day and your life.  The results have made such a difference in how I feel for the rest of the day that I have created a powerful morning meditation.

I meditate every morning either by relaxing or during my exercise on the treadmill.  I have been making myself recordings for years because when I first wake up I forgot what it was that I wanted to focus on in the morning.  And if you’re anything like me, if I have to work too hard in the morning, I’ll just skip it.

It occurred to me a few days ago that you might enjoy a recording to begin your day with too.  So I made one, it’s called First Thoughts.  It’s not a hypnosis recording because I don’t talk you into a deep relaxation.  But I do give you a visualization that you can do either with your eyes opened or closed. First Thoughts is designed to help you feel light, energetic, enthusiastic, and connected to spirit before you go out into your day.

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Here’s to you and your First Thoughts!

Michelle Lee, CH

Self-Realization and 2012

I am so excited for 2012.

I feel in my soul that it will be a very important year for women.  Always, when I approach a new beginning, I find myself reminiscing of times past.  Often remembering what now seem to be flashes of insight.  This time I’m recalling a conversation I was having with my mother when I was in my early twenties and I was expressing to her that I knew I would be a woman’s advocate.  At the time, I wasn’t sure how that would look.  But now, when I look back, I see that it has manifested in a couple of different ways.

For some years it looked like HypnoBirthing as I taught women to give birth without pain and suffering, then I began teaching day-long seminars about the power of the mind and how to use it.  Finally, I began combining hypnosis and emotional freedom technique to assist women in releasing shame, guilt, and anger in order to create a nurturing relationship with her Self.  Self-Love became my passion as I believe deeply that if women really loved themselves they would eradicate fear from their lives and would change not only her world but the world as a whole.

In the coming year my focus will be shifting a bit.  I will be focusing on helping women to truly “step into their power” and “step up to the plate”.  2012 will be a time for transformation.  I don’t just mean personal transformation but also worldly transformation.  I invite YOU to realize that you are already good enough and smart enough to stand up for what you believe in and create the life that you deserve.

Whether you are moved to write that book, start that business, or create that workshop that has been in your heart, for who knows how long, I would love to help you to create the time, the energy, and the confidence to begin and complete that project.

What is it that you would like to do this year?  How would you like to express your Self?

Are you afraid that you will disappoint others, or worse, yourself? Let’s do this together!

I would love to be your mentor and partner in fulfilling your Soul’s Purpose.

“Step in” and “Step up” during your Self-Realization Program and make 2012 truly phenomenal for you and those you love!

Seeing your Wholeness with Love,

Michelle Lee

The 5 Signs of Self-Love

I still find that so many people are unclear about what self-love is and often confuse it with selfishness and conceit.  So, I wanted to take this opportunity to clarify what loving your Self truly means, why it’s important, and how to know for sure if you love your Self or not.

Self love is the core from which self-confidence, self-esteem and self-trust spring.  Self love is knowing who you are, where you’ve been, what you’ve done and loving your Self, not in spite of it, but because of it.  Loving your Self is about liking YOU, being your own best friend and knowing that you’ve always “got your back”.

A solid foundation of Self Love is your point of power to love more deeply and completely others and to create the life you thought you could only dream of having.  Loving your Self is not selfish, as some may believe; self-love is the source of your love for others.  Attempting to love others before loving your Self creates conditional, judgmental, gossipy, passive aggressive, codependent, angry and resentful relationships.

How do you know if you love your Self or not?  There are 5 definite signs that you love your Self.

  1. You take action.  Procrastination is an act of self-sabotage born of fear.  The fear that you are not capable of doing what needs to be done, the fear that the action you take will not yield the results you want, or from the desire to complete the task perfectly (perfectionism).  All of these fears represent a lack of confidence in yourself which is a symptom of not loving yourself.
  2. You define and design your life.  Your days include activities that provide you with a sense of fulfillment, joy and purpose.  Filling your days with tasks that are on your “should” list so as not to disappoint others or to impress others is “people pleasing” and “approval seeking” behavior which indicates that you DO NOT approve of  or love yourself.
  3. You ask for what you want.  You understand that you deserve what you want.  You are not willing to settle for less in your career or your relationships.  You express yourself confidently, asking for what you want and expecting to get it as a win/win with all others involved.  A belief that you cannot have what you want or that you shouldn’t have what you want because it may rob others of their desires leads to self-sacrifice and is the opposite of self love.
  4. You feel and KNOW that others opinions and emotional reactions to you is about them. Because you love your Self you can allow others to be who they are without making it about you.  There will always be people who judge you but you are so comfortable with who you are that their judgments simply do not matter to you because you understand that their judgments are based on their fears about themselves and have nothing to do with you.
  5. You take care of yourself.  You eat the foods and drink the drinks that support a healthy and energized body.  You bless yourself with exercise.  Making time for yourself and honoring your commitments to your Self is a sure sign of self love.

Indications that you do not love your Self:

  • You are in a less than satisfying relationship and justifying it.
  • You are in a less than satisfying job/career and justifying it.
  • You set goals or intentions but you lose interest in them, lacking perseverance.
  • You doubt your ability to create the life you want.  You doubt your ability…period.
  • You sabotage your own efforts.
  • You are indecisive, worrying that you will make the wrong decision or you worry about what others will think about the decision you make.
  • You are paralyzed by the fear of failure or even by the fear of success.
  • You avoid new activities for fear you will not do them perfectly.
  • You are in relationships that are conditional, judgmental, gossipy, passive-aggressive, codependent, angry and resentful.
  • You are highly judgmental of others.
  • You engage in negative “self talk” calling yourself names are defining yourself as incapable.
  • You feel stuck.
  • You put off self-care making others priority over you.

Of course loving your Self does not mean you NEVER engage in the unloving acts and ALWAYS engage in the loving acts, do not get caught up in perfectionism over this.  You do however want to be spending significantly more time in loving acts rather than the unloving acts.

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Blessings,

Michelle

Do You suffer from Chronic Discontent?

When we suffer from chronic discontent we futurize our happiness.  It’s very much like the “the grass is always greener” attitude.  One who suffers from chronic discontent is sure she/he will be happier when…when the house is cleaned and organized, when the kids are more independent, when you lose the weight, etc.  But the phenomenon occurs when we spend so many years putting our happiness and fulfillment on hold that we actually become addicted to being discontent. Being in a state of waiting for the perfect circumstances to be happy and fulfilled actually becomes a habit.

This is what, I believe, can lead to the midlife crisis. Suddenly on a fateful birthday, whether it be 40, 50 or maybe even 60, we realize that the life we’ve been waiting to have has still alluded us and now we have at least half of our life behind us.  Often it feels as though we have wasted our time waiting for the perfect circumstances.

You may also realize that what you thought were going to be the perfect circumstances are not perfect at all.  You may have found at least one if not many “imperfections”.  These imperfections lead to your justification of why you cannot be happy or content in this moment. Or why you can’t do what you thought you would be doing when you finally realized the “perfect” circumstances.

Finding imperfections actually becomes a way for us to continue to play small.  Perfectionism is our way of blocking our own progress.  Waiting for everything to be perfect before we can write that book we’ve been wanting to write, or start that business, or begin the exercise program.  Chronic discontent is a symptom of perfectionism and both lead to playing small.  Most people would much rather say that “I’m a perfectionist” rather than say that “I’m simply too scared to step out of my box.  What if I fail?”

This behavior can become so habitually that you don’t even realize you’re doing it.

Begin today by doing one thing that you’ve been waiting to do.  You don’t have to do it perfectly, just begin it.  Then tomorrow do it again.  Step by step and day by day you will be doing what you’ve always waited to do. Before you know it you will be living your dream life.

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Michelle Lee, CH

The Attack on Women’s Rights

A heads up for you:  Being Woman Without Apology, I am a woman’s advocate and mentor.  I offer personal sessions to mentor women in releasing self-sabotaging behaviors and negative emotions so that they can feel fabulous about putting themselves at the TOP of their priority list.
Also as a woman’s advocate you may find that my blogs will discuss spiritual issues and now political issues.  Previously, I had thougth that it best for me to stay politically neutral.  I’m now finding that this may be nothing but irresponsible.  As a planet and as humans we are in transition, spiritually, politically, and even financially.  This transition will require us to wake-up, own our power, and take action on many levels.
My blogs will be reflecting these transitions.  I hope to move you into action and respectful discussions.  With that being said, I hope you enjoy!

Last month Arizona state lawmakers imposed new restrictions on abortions that went into effect September 12; forcing Planned Parenthood of Arizona to stop offering abortion services in all but the Glendale, Tempe, and Tucson locations. Pro-life activists are touting this to be a “move in the right direction” for the safety of Arizona women.  Key word safety…

But in fact the new regulations and restrictions do little more than restrict abortion services to those who may need them the most.

“For the first time in more than 30 years, Arizona women will have far fewer health care options available to them,” says Bryan Howard, president and CEO, Planned Parenthood Arizona. “There will be no known provider of abortion outside of Metro Phoenix or Tucson.”

The new regulations require that only a physician can perform surgical abortions.  At first glance this seems to make sense, until one digs deeper. Upon further investigation I learned that in many rural areas where Planned Parenthood does not have doctors, nurse practitioners are trained in the procedure and although they have a comparable safety record to that of a physician, Judge Peter Swan considers this fact to be legally irrelevant.

But…wait, I thought this was all about the woman’s safety?   If nurse practitioners have a comparable safety record why is this new regulation necessary?

Planned Parenthood has had to stop offering abortions in rural areas not because they don’t care about women and are not willing to meet the newly enforced state requirements, as the pro-lifers would like you to believe, but because there are too few doctors available to meet these new standards.  In fact, Arizona law makers made it illegal for the University Of Arizona College Of Medicine to train doctors how to terminate pregnancies.

Hmmm…this is looking like major steps are being made to make abortions unavailable.   We already have a shortage of physicians to perform abortions, but now it’s illegal to train new doctors in the procedures too. I’m getting a sense that this isn’t about my or any other woman’s safety; it’s about making safe abortions completely unavailable!

Just on Tuesday Brewer signed a bill that outlaws abortions done on the basis of race.  This new bill will criminalize doctors and other medical professionals if they can be shown to have performed an abortion for the purpose of the parents selecting the race or gender of their offspring. Never mind that this is not even a concern in our country let along our state.

Is it only obvious to me that Brewer’s agenda is to simply scare physicians into not terminating pregnancies?  Arizona already has a shortage of physicians to perform the procedure, by law they can no longer be trained in the procedure, and now the physician’s that are trained may find with all of the new regulations that it’s just too risky.  Anti-abortion groups are hoping to eliminate abortion by eliminating the trained professionals to perform them!

We all know the history of the black market abortions; women going into the back alleys having unsanitary and unsafe abortions. The abortions were certainly not performed by a physician or even a nurse practitioner; just some guy taking advantage of a poor woman’s misfortune.  Many women died as a result and it appears this is where Jan Brewer is taking us once again.

The new regulations also require a woman to have a face to face meeting with the surgeon 24 hours before the abortion is performed during which “she will receive information she would not have received”. This includes information about the development of the fetus, the abortion procedure, and other options such as adoption and welfare benefits.  Until now, this conversation took place over the telephone with the nurse practitioner.

This restriction will require women who live in the more rural areas to stay two nights away from home.  Consider….. According to the abortion statistics published by The Center for Bio-Ethical Reform, (a significant religious based pro-life funder of abortion restrictions), 48.2% of abortions are performed on women with an income of less than $30,000 annually. Not to mention the fact that 64.4% of the women getting abortions have never been married.  The two night stay away from home will likely make it nearly impossible for the women needing the procedure the most.

I’ve known a few women and girls who made the decision to have abortions and they had already deeply considered their options and what it means for their future.  They have considered the ramifications of terminating the pregnancy and are already afraid about the procedure.  These “face-to-face” conversations with the physician will likely do little more than cost these women and girls more money, more anguish, and more guilt.

So, just who are these people that are slowly but surely taking away your dominion over your body?

They are The Center for Arizona Policy, Alliance Defense Fund, Bioethics Defense Fund, and Life Legal Defense Fund, all of which are religious based pro-life organizations, supporting religious freedoms.

Well…my God believes that it’s my decision to maintain a pregnancy or terminate it considering it is my body that is needed to create another body.  Shouldn’t this be my freedom?

All of you pro-lifers are free to have all the children you want.  However, the rest of us want the right to choose and affordable access to the procedures that support our choices.    The restrictions being put into place are doing no more than making safe abortions inaccessible and eventually impossible.  They won’t stop abortions.  Women who want and need to terminate a pregnancy will risk their lives and safety to do it.  History has proven it so.

According to the same publication the reason for 93 % of all abortions is that the pregnancy is unwanted.

I have an idea!

It may sound radical to you pro-lifers out there, but instead of making abortion inaccessible to unmarried, low-income women and forcing them to have a child they don’t want, how about we funnel all of the money you’re spending to take away women’s right to choose on preventing unwanted pregnancies!

I know…its way outta the box thinking!  But hang on, there’s more….

Since according to your (The Center for Bio-Ethical Reform) statistics 20% of abortions are performed on teen-aged girls, we could maybe teach something beyond abstinence in schools.  Oh…that’s right, you don’t want to encourage the children to have sex by teaching them how to prevent unwanted pregnancies!

Considering that 20% of the abortions are performed on teens, I’m thinking that this abstinence approach isn’t working….

No, instead let’s let them get pregnant at the age of 15 or 16 and make their parents sign and notarize a permission slip to get an abortion. (By the way this same young woman doesn’t need a permission slip to give birth or to give a child up for adoption.) Or we can just guilt her into having an unwanted child, which will drastically change the course of her life.  Oh and where is the teen-aged father?  Yes, he’ll have to pay child support but beyond that his life will probably not be too affected.  Certainly not like the teen mom’s.

Perhaps we can even take this a little deeper.

What is it in a woman’s psyche that allows her to get pregnant when she doesn’t want to be?

According to The Center for Bio-Ethical Reform 52% of all abortions are performed for women younger than age 25.  A true woman’s advocate, rather than a religious fanatic, might ask, “Why do women with their entire lives ahead of them put their futures at stake with the possibility of an unwanted pregnancy?”

Being a woman and having been pregnant at 15 my answer would be that many women and girls want to be loved and accepted by that boy or man she is about have sex with.  She doesn’t want to “rock the boat” or “make waves” by demanding that he wear a condom.  When she does ask he will probably whine and complain about it “not feeling the same”.  He may even say something about “true love not needing a condom”.

She will almost always give in.  Only to find out several weeks later that she is now pregnant.  But when she tells “Mr. True Love Doesn’t Need Condoms” he accuses her of sleeping around.  And there she is, alone and faced with a decision bigger than she is old.

I say that instead of making an abortion practically impossible for this girl let’s just prevent this situation by helping her to find her power.

Let’s give her a voice!

Let’s teach her that her worth goes beyond her sexuality!

Let’s teach her that her future is just as important as anyone’s!

….especially an unborn fetus!!!

Ladies… the Women’s Liberation movement is not over yet.  Our future generations (boys and girls) need to know that a woman’s worth is not based on a man loving her or finding her adequately fuckable.  Every day we hear of women and girls sacrificing themselves for the man they love.  In our society the girls are still growing up feeling inadequate and looking for validation from men.  They often end up pregnant and alone.

When we finally build a society that nurtures a woman’s worth. then abortion will be legal, accessible, free, and completely unnecessary except in cases of medical necessity.

The truth is the pro-life agenda is less about a woman’s safety than pushing religious dogma onto society as a whole.  If you don’t want an abortion then don’t get an abortion, but my and my sisters reproductive preferences are none of your business.

I cordially invite Jan Brewer and all other pro-life supporters to evacuate my vagina!

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